Family is about fidelity in lots of way, and men and women have different reasons for breaking their vows and commitment. Men usually cheat when lured by sex, while a woman will cheat on her husband because of emotional neglect or lack of intimacy. In our modern society, the number of cheating women is increasing, because of the higher financial independence and the possibility to travel around without their husbands. Extra-marital sex has thus ceased to be a matter of gender.
A woman cheating on husband will try to cover her traces as much as she can if she has no intention of breaking up. The problem is that women tend to become emotionally involved a lot more easily, and a woman can thus come to neglect her family life because the way she feels has changed. The reactions against a woman cheating on husband cover a wide range of emotions, but outsiders should usually refrain from judging. It is difficult to be a moralist and inappropriate.
This may sound like a pleading in favor of adultery but it is not. I am simply saying that people would improve their lives a lot including in relation with their fidelity issues if they ceased to pass ethical judgments. Yes, it seems wrong to cheat, to mislead and lie, and from a certain perspective it is. But it is easy to point the finger when we don’t know exactly what is going on in a certain relationship. Nobody cheats without a certain reason, whether it is more or less justified.
Cheating on husband cases have higher chances of ending up with a divorce or a permanent separation than cheating on wife situations. This usually happens because men are less inclined to get over infidelity problems. Women are usually more open to maintaining their family intact and will be more forgiving, but when they are in the role of the cheater, their case could be more difficult to plead. Problems may appear when there are special economic, religious or cultural views and beliefs involved.
Being exposed when cheating on husband could thus result not only in loss of trust and legal separation, but also loss of children custody, repudiation and so much more. The psychological distress and the consequences of adultery are considered to be higher for cheating women than for men. If the couple decides to give it one more try, it will take time before the spouses can build trust again.